Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Q&A with Self-Help Author Cristina G

Cristina G. was born in Romania during one of the harshest communist regimes that ever existed.

The tenth child of a farmer’s family, she has six sisters and used to have four brothers, now only two.

Aged eight, she read Les Misérables by Victor Hugo and fell irremediably in love with books. Since then she kept dreaming of writing for many years, and she wrote a lot, but never thought of publishing.

In 2012, after living in Italy for ten years, Cristina became a blogger.

In June of 2014, with the help of a British friend, she moved to the UK. Here, although her expectations were not great, Cristina fulfilled the dream she never dared to dream before.

Cristina G. is now a registered author and dedicates her life to writing focusing on human behaviour, emotions and feelings.

Her latest book is the self-help/nonfiction, It’s Never Game Over.



Can you tell us what your book is about?

Of course.

My book, It’s Never Game Over, is all about discipline, building self-esteem/self-confidence and finding motivation and inspiration.

It’s about purpose and following your dreams despite the vicissitudes of life.

Can you give us an excerpt?

With pleasure.

Don’t settle for less than you deserve

Since we are born, we are told that we cannot have everything we want in our lives. Then we are taught to prioritise, sacrifice, compromise, adapt, and accept. Which is great. I appreciate all of that. If we learn to master all these without becoming despondent, then we are superhumans. Unfortunately, it’s not that easy.
We start doing all the above in stages (or all at once) and force ourselves to make all sorts of compromises, for that’s life.
We go to jobs we don’t like because we need to pay the bills or maintain a family;
We are friends with people we don’t have anything in common with because everybody says that we have to accept others’ differences or because we don’t like solitude;
We marry or get into relationships with humans we don’t resonate with because they are not right for us. And the examples could continue indefinitely of course.
All these are choices. Nobody can force us to be friends or marry someone we don’t like or who doesn’t make us happy. Unless your culture is still imposing or allowing arranged marriages.

As you read many times in the previous chapters, everything we do or do not do is a decision. Therefore, if you stay in a relationship with a person who abuses you, it means it’s your decision. Some beasts threaten to kill you or your children if you leave. What happens if you stay though? How do you feel? How are your children feeling? Would you sleep at night knowing that your partner would rather murder you instead of letting you free? Have you ever heard of associations that defend and help these people? They are hugely publicised on TV, radio, internet. I am sure you saw movies, documentaries, shows, celebrities discussing this subject very closely. Then why are still with a person who hits you and your child? Ask for help right now. Please, don’t find excuses. Don’t say you don’t have internet, a phone, or a friend that could help you. You are reading this book which means you have access to something.
In Romania, people get and remain married for 30-50 years. My parents got married at eighteen and at eighty-three they are still together. How many years is that? Would you say it’s extraordinary? Would you think they had a good life together? As their child, I know they were not so happy. But in my country (not only, of course), people still think couples should stay together until death do them part. Some would never even consider separating. Divorcing is a sin in both Orthodox and Catholic religions, and my fellow nationals decide to respect that vow. Regardless of the fact they don’t go to church or believe in God.
However, the youngest generations have started to adapt to the western culture and get divorced 2 years after (2 is just a number, take your pick) they swore eternal love until the last breath. Priests are not so radical anymore. Thank God for that.
In 40 years, I have seen and witnessed very closely several marriages. All of them were love matrimonies between a man and a woman. Nothing remarkable here. Spectacular though, was the velocity with which the endless love turned into pure hate. People who frequented each other for 3-7 years, a week after living under the same roof discovered they knew nothing about the significant other. When in front of the judge they said that incompatibility brought them to take the decision to ask for a divorce.
“For how long have you two known each other?” enquired a judge.
“5 years,” replied the man.
“In 5 years you didn’t manage to understand that you are not meant one for another?”
“No, your honour,” said the woman. “He lied to me. He either hid his true nature or he changed overnight.”

Changing is doable, of course. This book speaks about it. However, only a few people choose to change. The truth is that Love is not eternal. Love can be a caprice, a physical desire, a friendship, an infatuation, or the terror of being alone. Many can’t distinguish between the many types or forms of the most magical sentiment of them all.
Humans are taught, told, and forced to compromise and sacrifice. Women are better than men at compromising but are also very naïve. Women see the true nature of the man they are in love with. They are not fooled, they fool themselves when they think that a man will change for them. And if he doesn’t, women start to pretend….”

If you could tell your younger writing self anything, what would that be?

You are such a lazy bugger! Get up! Take the pen. Write. Now!

What would you say is one of your interesting writing quirks?

I can write for fifteen hours every day I sit on my bed rather than on a chair.

Do you hear from your readers?  What do they say?

Yes, often. Besides asking me out, (kidding), my readers say it’s hard to distinguish between genuine authors and business people. 

What is the toughest criticism given to you as an author?

“Good literature takes time. Wait.” This came from a highly educated person who reads a lot. Despite agreeing with him, I took it very badly. I read an awful lot too, and I believe that my books are great. And this is only the beginning. We all need to start somewhere and somehow. If you never take a risk, you never fail. Pardon, I meant to say, “If you never take a risk, you never win.”

What has been your best accomplishment?

English is my third language. I have published my first book one year after I moved to the UK. Previous to that I studied English for almost four months only.
The book, a memoir, Oranges at Christmas in a Communist Country became live on Christmas day of 2015. A very memorable day for all my fellow nationals.
More than an accomplishment, it was an enormous risk and I paid a very high price for it.
Nevertheless, I am very proud of myself because of that.

Do you Google yourself?


How many unpublished and half-finished books do you have?

More than 15.

Fun question – if you were princess or prince, what’s one thing you would do to make your kingdom a better place?

I would hire a knowledgeable mentor to teach all the newborns, boys, and girls, to speak and understand the same language.

“Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus,” should not be still perfectly true after so many millions years of evolution.

Evolution of what? The Apple Empire? Oh, sorry, I meant, “Apes’ Empire?”

Do you have anything specific that you would like to say to your readers?

Yes, thank you.

My name means nothing to you today, but this will change soon. I am working night and day to give you great stories to read in your tranquil moments. I put body and soul into every book I publish.

Rest assured that my intention is to make you dream, laugh, believe and push you to become a better human every day.

Type Cristina G. in Google, read It’s Never Game Over if you feel like your life is not what you’d like it to be.

If you like my books, why not hit follow and review them to support me?

I would like to thank every each of you for your interest. Without you, I wouldn’t call myself an author.

About the Book:

Author: Cristina G.
Publisher: Independent
Pages: 145 ebook/268 paperback
Genre: Nonfiction/Self-Help


It’s the end of the year but you have the impression it’s the end of your life?
Start the New Year with a plan. Don’t make a resolution, make a habit!
Whatever your situation might be now, you have the power to change it.
           Depression can be overcome.
           You can lose weight and find love.
           You can heal and transform your life.
Believe you’re happy, and you’re half way there.



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